Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Ceremony Ideas

We think we would like to do a sand ceremony. With pink and white sand. Another project for me to do.

(I love how the fiance sits back and does NOTHING FOR THIS WEDDING. I mean, I don't do much either, there's not that much we HAVE to do, but still. Why is the responsibility always on the bride? Don't mind me, I'm PMS-ing. The wedding of my dreams would have been eloping in a beautiful place. Whatever.)

And I think I would like to have one, or both, of the following pieces read at the ceremony:

"The Art Of Marriage"
by Wilferd A. Peterson

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In the art of marriage the little things are the big things...
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude
of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best.

And "Love" by Roy Croft:

I love you,
Not only for what you are,
But for what I am
When I am with you.
I love you,
Not only for what
You have made of yourself,
But for what
You are making of me.
I love you
For the part of me
That you bring out;
I love you
For putting your hand
Into my heaped-up heart
And passing over
All the foolish, weak things
That you can’t help
Dimly seeing there,
And for drawing out
Into the light
All the beautiful belongings
That no one else had looked
Quite far enough to find.
I love you because you
Are helping me to make
Of the lumber of my life
Not a tavern
But a temple;
Out of the works
Of my every day
Not a reproach
But a song.
I love you
Because you have done
More than any creed
Could have done
To make me good
And more than any fate
Could have done
To make me happy.
You have done it
Without a touch,
Without a word,
Without a sign.
You have done it
By being yourself.
Perhaps that is what
Being a friend means,
After all.

What are you doing for your ceremony?


  1. What I want to do is too long to write up in a comment but i'll post a little later. I'm seriously considering a sand ceremony.

  2. It used to bother me that my fiance isn't interested in the whole wedding planning process, but someone at work told me to be GLAD that he's content to let me have whatever I want (and I should be a little worried if he started picking colors and flowers).

    Well, a couple weeks ago I showed him a theme wedding with a type of dog that he loves, as a joke. He said "Yes! We must do this!" teasing me. I told him he could go back to not being involved, haha. It was all in good fun, but still, it drove the point home.

    (But if you REALLY want to get him involved, two words: cake tasting).

  3. Haha Amberdawn, he actually went with me to that. You hit the nail on the head with that one! That dog theme is hilarious. Good luck with planning! And being able to make all the decisions is definitely a plus of a laid back fiance.

    And JEM, you should do it! There are websites where you can order pretty colored/shiny sand. Google it!


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